Weddings these days in India are all about the expensive gifts, the beautiful awe-striking dresses, pleasing the groom his family and relatives with the assets and the extravagant decorations.
Weddings around the world are quite simple. The boy and the girl fall in love and get married, but in India there are a few more steps. The boy falls in love with the girl and the girl falls in love with the boy. The girl’s family has to like the boy and the boy’s family has to the like the girl. The girl’s family has to like the boy’s family and the boy’s family has to like the girl’s family. After this entire, if the girl and the boy still love each other then they will get married.
I am not against any kind of celebration or society, but I am also not in favor of the hillarious mockery and parody that wedding these days have become. For me the concept of marriage is much deeper and sensible. People are spending so much on the lavish weddings these days that the people who cannot afford these extravagant weddings, are left with no choice. These weddings leave many fathers, mothers and brothers in debt just for the sake of going with the trends set by the society. These kind of lavish weddings are not carried in every family, but are now the trend in most of the families.
We are the modern generation subsuming of people that deal with their own problems, pay our own bills, live away from our parents, bills are split at dinner, money is saved to travel and pay our own rents. Our generation is not supposed to become part of the satire in which our main focus is to impress people. Today we have evolved in so many ways where we are allowed to choose our life-partner. So, why can’t our generation choose the way they want to get married? Just because everyone is spending a huge amount on their wedding does not makes it necessary for us to do the same. The amount of food and money that is wasted on these occasions is unimaginable.
The greatest gift that a father can give his daughter is the gift of education. If you really want to secure her future, teach her how to be independent and support herself. Spending so much on a weddings and loading her in-laws with extravagant dowry which they call assets will not secure her and her future. I am not insulting the institution of marriage, but how can the couple being wedded obtain marital bliss by these lavish weddings and impressing not-so-important relatives.
We are known as the smart generation. Our education is of no use if we cannot stop our parents from spending the only savings they had on our weddings, just to please some people we may never come across in life. It is our responsibility to trim the big fat Indian weddings. We can change the way we celebrate; the way we begin our new life. Let’s be the change we want.