We all look forward to relationships that will lead to marriage. While dating, it is vital that the ‘having babies’ talk is cleared as soon as possible. You do not have to like the subject, but you must talk about it. Dealing with this matter before getting married is wise. This way, you can enter into a marital union knowing exactly what to expect. For some others, having babies is the least of their concerns as a couple. This is simply because none of them want babies. This is why you hear of couples getting pets to cover the gap. For many others, kids are just part of the deal and for making the legacy live on.
Being one of the people that are looking forward to having babies, when is the right time to discuss them while dating?
When both of you are sure of the relationship: There is no need for couples to discuss babies when there is no clear definition of where the relationship is heading. When two people are sure that they are heading to the altar together, they should then discuss babies. Be sure of the future so that in the case of anything, you have a shared vision – staying together always.
When both of you are psychologically prepared: Talking about babies does not need two unprepared people. This subject also does not need one person to be psychologically unprepared. It may just tear a relationship apart. If one is not prepared, they may feel pressured and forced into a corner. In no time, they will break. Sharp minds are needed for this talk.
When you two are discussing your future: There are those times when you two will be talking about your plans. This is the time to talk about this topic. Babies are a part of the plan. Whether you want kids or not, you should discuss this when making future plans.
At least six months into the relationship: In this case, we do not talk about those relationships that you know have no future. We talk about the kind of dating that has a sincere purpose. Usually, when a relationship goes past the first three months, the chances are that it will stand the test of time. By six months, you know whether you mean it when you say, “I will always love you”, or not. Now, you can take the risk of bringing up the topic.
When you are sure of what you want: When you have a clear perception of what you want from a relationship, you can speak of it. When you are sure that you want kids, you can bring up the topic. If not, hold your peace. On the other hand, when you do not want them, be sure of this first before raising the issue.
Talking about kids is something that couples cannot avoid. Ensuring that you discuss the matter before marriage is a way to guarantee that you enter into a marriage when every vital part of it is settled. Kids are essential.