It is a very common thing for people to have evidence from their previous relationships. For some, it is the gifts given to them by their ‘then’ partners, and for many others, it is always a fruit of the womb. Well, it is something that no one wants to have before marriage, but one cannot escape it when it happens. Now, you may have a kid or kids from previous relationships whether marriages or otherwise. Wondering when to introduce them to the new man or woman can be a very frustrating thought. This is because it is a must that you get it right for your sake but especially for the kids.
Coming back to the real matter; when is the right time for the date to meet the kids?
WHEN THE KIDS ARE READY
After a break-up or separation from your partner due to one reason or the other, the children always end up bruised. This is both emotionally and mentally. The scarring on a child can last for a very long time because they are learning to live without a person they love. If they are to meet someone else who is going to take the part of their father or mother, then they have to be mentally and emotionally ready. They must recover from the loss and be willing to let someone else in.
WHEN YOU ARE READY
When you are ready to see your kids bond with anyone other than their father or mother, then you are ready. There is always something everyone will love about their children bonding with their partners. When relationships come to an end, then seeing them bond with someone else may create some fears in you. When you are not scared about this new bond, then you are ready.
WHEN YOU ARE CONVINCED OF THE PERSON
There must be a conviction in your heart that the person you are about to introduce to your kids is the right person. They must have shown you qualities and characteristics that you can be comfortable with. These traits are going to rub off on your children when they bond with that person. You will want to ensure that they are the right people that you want for your kids.
WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS GETTING SERIOUS
There is a stage in dating when one can be convinced of the direction and the seriousness that each person has to the relationship. Unless you are sure of the direction that you are heading with the new partner, do not introduce them to your kids. Remember, the only direction that a relationship should head to that qualifies it for an introduction is marriage. If there is no indication that this is where the relationship will end, kindly do not introduce the kids.
All through the relationship, make sure that the first people that you consider are the kids that you have. It is no longer about you alone. The kids need to be your priority.